Record-setting 10.1 million jobs opened in the United States last year. About 11.5 million workers quit just in the second quarter of 2021. Forty-one percent of the global workforce would consider leaving their current employer within the next year. Fifty-four percent of Gen Z are considering quitting.

When is the best time to invest in your customer experience? Eighteen months ago. When is the second-best time? Now!

Now is the time to make your organization’s customer experience your single biggest competitive advantage.

You and your company are either an expense that can be found cheaper somewhere else or one of the few businesses that customers can’t live without.

In order to be the brand customers can’t live without, you need to focus on creating an emotional connection on every interaction with your customers. Here are seven ways to create an emotional connection with your customers:

  1. Focus on the Micro Moments
  2. Address the Relationship Deficit
  3. Avoid Empathy Fatigue
  4. Make your Customers Feel Something
  5. Find the Conversation Gifts
  6. Utilize Relationship Hacks
  7. Justify a Relationship Tax


Too many companies and employees think that if the results/outcomes are achieved, the customer will be happy. However, it is scientifically proven that outcomes have the least to do with customer loyalty. The order was accurate, my steak was prepared medium rare, my tooth no longer hurts. Those all better happen, but by themselves, results and outcomes are a commodity.

Customer loyalty is a result of consistently delivering on the micro moments, at each touch point, whether a customer calls, emails, checks in or needs support. Were your employees knowledgeable, empathetic, patient, passionate about their job, easy to do business with and willing to make it right?


Technology has made it easier for us to navigate through our busy lives, but it also erodes the fundamental element of human connections. When communicating digitally, often it can lack a human touch, which creates a sterile transaction and a lack of emotional connection. Today, being forced into a virtual world is adding to these unintended consequences, which we call a relationship deficit.

When we were forced to practice social distancing during the COVID-19 pandemic, people realized how much they crave human connection. Not being able to dine with friends, see family members or interact with co-workers put a strain on the human spirit. That is why the businesses that create emotional connections will dominate.

At John Robert’s Spas, the first business I started, some of the hair stylists are the most talented technicians on the planet. And there are others that are pretty good, but technically can’t hold a candle to the first group. Yet some of the less technically talented hair stylists are completely booked out for weeks, way more than the more talented ones. Why? Because of their  relationship-building skills.


Empathy fatigue usually occurs in industries that constantly deal with customers who have high emotional pain, like funeral homes, behavior therapy or oncology. However, with today’s world, every business is dealing with customers who have high stress and anxiety. This can cause our employees to feel emotionally and physically drained which leads to a diminished ability to empathize or feel compassion for others. That is why as leaders, we have to constantly be helping our employees reenergize, rejuvenate, feel appreciated and understand the critical role they play in their customer’s lives. This not only results in the customer feeling better but the employee will be less likely to burn out.


The No. 1 best customer service experience we can provide is being a positive escape with every person we come in contact with. You have to create an emotional connection that’s so engaging and compelling that the customer literally feels something afterwards.

What drives today’s customers are emotions and feelings, some of which can’t be expressed in words and are triggered unconsciously. The most important element in customers choosing whom they buy from is how a brand makes them feel.

So how do you create such an experience and train your employees to provide it? Examine every touch point in the customer journey to see if you have built in the feeling of “cared for” in the journey.


It is all about finding the conversation gift. There is a gift in every conversation. If you look for it, you will see it. By now, most of you are familiar with FORD (family, occupation, recreation and dreams) and probably have implemented it in your business. Now more than ever, focusing on FORD during conversations, especially virtually, is critical and easy. This helps you find the conversation gift — professionally and personally. Let me show you how.

Many of the clients we work with have easily customized their CRM system to add FORD fields, something you check either before or during an interaction with a customer and update afterward. I want to show you a fantastic best practice we use at The DiJulius Group, and many of our clients have started doing the same with great results. Even though we have the FORD fields in our CRM system, we strongly recommend that when you are at your computer, you use a FORD tablet.

This FORD tablet not only helps to collect key customer intelligence during calls but it is also a great tool to prep for a call. Now for any scheduled calls/meetings I have on my calendar, I will do a little prep before the call. Typically, first thing in the morning, I will fill out what I already know from what I may remember, what we have in our CRM system, the city they live, any FORD already documented and their past purchase history. It reminds me to do some exploring on LinkedIn for mutual connections we have and where they may have graduated from.

Then during the conversation, I just write down any additional information that comes up. Using this and paying attention, I always find the conversation gift that allows me to follow up with something. Many times, it could be a link to an article or video of a topic we discussed, an introduction or some great restaurant suggestions for their upcoming trip. It takes less than 30 seconds to do after the call. You can see the rest of the FORD Tablet has space available for the business discussion and the call-to-action needed.

Video conferencing calls are so much better than the old traditional conference call. Recently I was on a Zoom call with someone I had never spoken to before. There was so much FORD information in plain view behind him—his diploma, a photo of his wife and kids, and his favorite sports team. This type of information allows for conversation gift follow-up.


Many little investments in relationships are key to building that emotional connection. I learned a great relationship hack from reading Adrienne Bankert’s new book, “Your Hidden Superpower.” Adrienne talks about taking a few minutes to video text people instead of just texting them, and the power of doing so. So I tried it, and to my amazement, it was fast, easy and the responses I got were incredible. I have always texted my employees on their company anniversary dates to thank them. Now, I send a video text, which actually takes less time than typing and has a significantly bigger impact. I am trying to force myself to think before I text anyone—employees, my sons—and ask: Would this be more powerful as a video message?


What if your business started charging every customer an additional 5 percent relationship tax that was nonnegotiable? This is a great exercise to do with your employees. Tell them you are implementing a relationship tax on January 1. The tax is for the relationship they have built with every customer during each interaction. Ask them what will they do as a result to ensure no customers complain about the new relationship tax?

Typically, the answers employees come up with are simple ideas that they realize they should have been doing all along. When you can justify the relationship tax, without actually charging for it, you start becoming irreplaceable in your customers lives.

You absolutely can become the brand customers can’t live without by training your employees to create an emotional connection every time they interact with your customers.

The organizations that understand that the human touch is the most important part of any experience—especially a great customer experience—will flourish.

John DiJulius, best-selling author of five customer service books, is the Chief Revolution Officer of The DiJulius Group and works with the top brands in the world on customer and employee experience.